We offer a body-based approach in reclaiming your body, recreating your personal narrative, and reconnecting to your innate freedom.

 
Artwork by Sarah Sun     Photo by Collette Wright

Artwork by Sarah Sun    Photo by Collette Wright

It is a practice in remembering.

 
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Remembering all that you are and have always been. 

It is a practice in reclaiming your body, integrating your associated stories, and recreating your personal narrative. It is a practice in embodiment. It is a practice in finding your freedom and remembering your truth. It is a practice in taking up space and in not abandoning yourself as you and your story continues to evolve and change. 

It is remembering that this is all just a practice in awareness: life, you, me, vulnerability, health, growth, tension, joy, and pain.

There is no destination, no mastery, no end point. There is only practice.

Remembered Practice is a practice to strengthen your ability to remember, trust, and have compassion for the most important aspect to your self and your healing:

You.

 
 
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Are you ready to say “yes” to yourself?
 

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, a pioneer in trauma research, says:

“The only way you can change your survival orientation in your brain is by accessing your interoceptive world—the part of your brain that allows you to observe yourself…observing yourself, knowing yourself, being curious about yourself, befriending yourself, taking care of yourself.”

 
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I invite you to say “yes” to yourself.

 
There is so much that happens in the silence; in listening and in noticing. Like in sessions with clients, in the quiet spaces where I’m engaging with their body and we’re both just listening and feeling with curiosity and openness. ⁣ ⁣ In a recent session, for example, as my hands engaged in the low back and the tissue began to talk to me, I followed along with what the tissue needed to do, how and where it wanted to move. I sensed at some point that while I was working in the low back, I was actually accessing other areas of the body- the abdomen, the pelvis, the diaphragm, the cranium, the chest. The client affirmed that, stating that they felt sensations at different times in those areas.⁣ ⁣ I really just listen. With my hands and with my intuition, almost like our energy or consciousness were in conversation. I held space for the body to speak and for the body to do what it needed to in order to unwind and move toward homeostasis.⁣ ⁣ It truly is a profound form of movement like none other I’ve ever experienced because as the body opens up, so too does our awareness. Memories that have been long forgotten, emotional wounds that are ready to begin to heal, belief systems that all of a sudden feel so foreign despite their familiarity, and old physical traumas that were never quite given the time, space, or care they needed or deserved. ⁣ ⁣ In every session I ask the client to stay tuned in to their body during all of this because their awareness, their body, and me are all working as a team. Because the nature of the work is addressing the body as a whole, and because I’m accessing the entire fascial system with one specific touch, other areas of the body will begin to start “talking” to the client. This is the body directing us where to go next. It sorts of lights up as if to say “me next!” So we go there next and repeat the process all over again; listening, noticing, following the body’s wisdom.⁣ ⁣ There is so much communication going on without any body ever having to say a word. Can you tune and give yourself the space to be in silence, listening to what your body has to say? If you feel fear in doing so, what are you fearful of? 📷: @stellamariabaer
You know that thing that you keep doing?⁣ ⁣ You know…that thing that you do that you think you’re doing out of love but it kind of feels like shit when you do it because you’re sort of sacrificing a piece of your self in a way but you feel like you can’t stop because it’s all you’ve known and it feels old but who on earth will ever do the thing in your place?⁣ ⁣ You don’t have to do that thing anymore. It’s not your job. ⁣ ⁣ And you don’t need to know who will do it in your place because someone will figure it out. And that someone doesn’t need to be you. Because it’s not your job.⁣ And you can’t do anyone’s inner work for them. ⁣ Where or who does the belief of the role you were supposed to play come from? In what ways would you use the energy of that newfound freedom and space?⁣ ⁣ How would that new boundary serve you?
This week I sat with many women who are survivors of rape and sexual assault.⁣ ⁣ I sat with women who have yet to really own what happened to them and still question the validity of what memory they do have because it “doesn’t seem as bad as what other women have gone though”.⁣ ⁣ I sat with women who have been drugged at parties, some whom only knew of their rape because a physician told them of the evidence that showed up in their physical the day after.⁣ ⁣ I sat with them in solidarity. I sat with them to hold space for their story. I sat with them in disbelief that this is our reality but I sat with them in full belief of what they went through, and still go through today. I cried with them. I got angry with them. As I saw them in their resilient-as-fuck light, I was in awe of them. As a survivor, I related to them.⁣ ⁣ I come away from this week putting a call out to men. Where are you? Why aren’t you showing up? No one is trying to emasculate you. We are asking you to do the inner work required to use your masculine energy in a healthy way. We are asking you to be vocal in favor of women’s rights. We are asking you to be vocal about publicly believing women, and to stand up to those who ignorantly defy that. We are asking you to see us.⁣ ⁣ My work with people is heavy in the area of self development, personal growth, and self inquiry. My clientele is a majority women. I am ALWAYS wondering where you are at, men.⁣ ⁣ Where the fuck are you?
It’s been really fun for me over the last few months to share my Giving Practice with people. It has been really opening in a way that has allowed me to experience a new connection with people that illicits such FEELING in an instant, an opening of sorts to allow our child-like enthusiasm to exist in familiarity and resonance. It feels so innate and instinctive to rest in that feeling place with people. Hmm…maybe I should talk about trees more often!⁣ ⁣ I’m so curious about that reaction from people, too. I talk to people all day long- about jobs, family, love, loss, purpose, truth, pain, beliefs, joy- and yet I’m enamored by the way people light up in the way that they do when talking about trees.⁣ ⁣ There is a lot that we can learn from trees. As I say that I feel some fear creeping in of being perceived as that “tree loving hippy”, but I know that’s not my voice. Besides, when did it become a bad thing to love trees, hippies, and tree loving hippies? Anyway…⁣ ⁣ To me, their pattern of growth is so reflective of our own. There are layers of varying size based on that year’s conditions. Rainy seasons permit more growth (I’m sure we’ve all been through our own rainy seasons in life). Dryer seasons can feel a bit less expansive. Scars from forest fires or weathering storms are mended so that growth continues. Resilience at its finest. And if there is one thing that I’ve learned about human beings in my work with them, it’s that they’re resilient as all hell. And I think we see that part of ourselves in every stage of a tree’s life. We are realizing how connected we all are, to each other and to the natural world.⁣ ⁣ I’ve felt so much gratitude in the shared felt-experience in talking about trees. I’ve also felt gratitude for the Giving Practice. This month I am donating 47 trees to Brazil. That means people showed up 47 times this month- to see themselves and allow themselves to be seen. To create their own narrative outside of the one that has been given to them. To anchor even deeper in to who they really are. Also, we’ve donated 139 trees in the last three months because of you. 139!!! Just saying’.⁣ ⁣ For more on my Giving Practice head to the link in my bio.
“I don’t have a choice.”⁣ ⁣ I caught myself in this story again this morning. I heard myself saying it to someone in a conversation I was having with them in my mind. It’s a familiar belief; my lack of choice. Though this time in saying in, it reverberated through my mind in a different way than it ever had before. Almost like a question of sorts that sound like “wait, what? That’s interesting. Do I really believe that?” I said it to myself again, this time noticing what I felt in my body as I said it.⁣ ⁣ “I don’t have a choice.”⁣ ⁣ Ugh. A bit of a shudder and a blocked feeling in my upper abdomen, the area where the solar plexus chakra lives. The more I repeat it to myself, and the more that I feel in to the way my body feels in response, the more anger I feel come up in me. The more conflict it creates inside of me. The more I realize I don’t actually line up with that belief anymore.⁣ ⁣ I all of a sudden feel like in my mind’s eye I’m able to zoom out and see a sort of bird’s eye view of my life. I’m able to see how this belief has affected not only my choices but how I’ve felt about my choices, or lack there of. As I continue to explore the anger, the sensations in my body, the fact that while the belief is so familiar but now all of a sudden also feels so foreign, I gain clarity on where that belief came from. I realize whose voice it actually is when I hear it repeating in my head. It’s not mine. ⁣ ⁣ I realize that I don’t actually believe that anymore, and I don’t want to.⁣ ⁣ What do you hear yourself saying often that creates conflict within? How does your body feel in response? How does that conflict manifest physically, whether in your body or elsewhere in relationships or your relationship to money or in your career, or possibly even in your health?
You actually aren’t stuck.⁣ ⁣ It’s probably felt like that stuckness, whether it feels like a wall or barrier or something else completely, is impenetrable. All-consuming. I hear that from clients often. ⁣ ⁣ “I’ve tried everything. I am just stuck. I don’t know what to do. I can’t move past this one thing that keeps me from moving forward.”⁣ ⁣ What makes you think you’ve tried everything? What IS “everything”? What makes you think you can’t move past that thing that is blocking you? What does the block feel like? What comes up for you even just being asked these questions? ⁣ ⁣ If you have remained stuck whether that be physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or relationally, I would bet that you haven’t tried everything because human beings aren’t meant to be blocked. Human beings are meant to be fluid and easeful in movement, consciousness, energetics, and emotionality, and yet stable, structured, and assertive in the same right. Our bodies and spirit WANT that balance and homeostasis. You aren’t designed to feel stuck.⁣ ⁣ If you feel stuck or have a block, chances are there’s something that’s “off” like an old unconscious belief system that doesn’t work for you anymore or something or someone in your life who doesn’t line up with who you are anymore in your deepest self. Perhaps it’s a coping mechanism that kept you safe for most of your life but isn’t serving you as the person you are today. It’s really anything that disconnects you from your truest self and creates mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, or relational dis-ease.⁣ ⁣ So, you’re not stuck. There is just something in you that is saying “Hey, hi! In here! This thing we’ve been doing? It’s not working for us anymore. Can we do something about this?” There is something in you asking you to see yourself, more than you may ever have, for the person that you are today. Right here. Right now.⁣ ⁣ That something is You. ⁣ ⁣ And you get to decide if you’re going to listen.
Grief is a full-body experience. Our bodies and emotions have a visceral understanding of death and loss, whether it is due to the actual death of a loved one or whether it is the loss of a relationship, job, way of life, experience, something you needed that you never got out of a relationship, etc. To not allow yourself to grieve is allowing the trauma of the death/loss to repeat. To not feel deeply the pain of the loss does not honor you, and it does not honor what has been lost. Inevitably, numbing yourself from your grief only moves you further and further away from yourself. Karla McLaren of The Language of Emotions says that in grief, “your heart will break open but it won’t break apart”. This has been my experience with grief. It’s never as debilitating as I expect it to be and it doesn’t completely take me over in a way that is impossible to come out of. When I am in the grieving process and stay in my body, I intuitively know what to do. It’s instinct. Many people I work with find it hard to feel their feelings, grief especially. And it’s often mistaken as sadness. They share that they are fearful of grief overtaking them. That they’ll never get out of it alive. What they fail to realize is that when they aren’t feeling or processing their grief, they are actually already living from that place of stuckness that they feared they’d never get out of by being in it. Experience your grief. Begin to accept and honor loss, death, and profound transitions. And if you need to, move your body to move your grief. Trust yourself. As always, seek out a trusted practitioner like my self to support you in that process if it feels needed. And remember: your heart will break open, but it will never break apart.